Today I have an introduction for you.
After 3 years of working on The Ace Mind alone, I’m getting some help.
Someone really amazing is going to join The Ace Mind as an English proofreader!
She asked me if she could help out with English grammar, and I was actually looking for some help with that.
But let’s get to it, I’ll let her introduce herself!
Introduction
Hello!
My name is Rebekah (she/her) and I am excited to be joining The Ace Mind team!
I am 24 years old and a biromantic asexual (sex-positive but personally indifferent) from Ohio in the USA and have been obsessed with reading and literature for as long as I can remember, so I’m looking forward to helping out with Joëlle on this blog as an English proofreader!
I have been aware of the asexual spectrum for about 10 years now thanks to tumblr and blogs like these. I first identified as asexual in 2017 and have been looking for ways to connect with others in the ace/aro community ever since. I, like many others, struggled with my identity and sense of belonging for a long time. I knew I was different from my peers on some sort of relationship scale from high school and earlier. I never understood the attraction that other people experienced to each other, especially on a purely visual basis. I never had a celebrity crush and any crushes I developed were based on people who were kind to me or I could get along with very well. Towards the end of high school I became aware of asexuality and aromanticism but attraction is a tricky thing to nail down when you don’t know what it’s supposed to feel like.
Thanks to online resources and other members of the community I’ve come to learn these are all fairly common identifiers of people on the ace spectrum and it is thanks to people sharing their stories that new people can learn about the ace spectrum and their own identities. Education is important y’all.
Finding us in the wild is certainly a difficult task so it’s online communities like this one that really form the background of our culture.
Anyway back to my journey, I had a couple relationships that never lasted that long primarily because I started them because I was expected to, this is what people do, it wasn’t motivated by my own desires or needs. After a couple of these, including one with a partner that was hypersexual and had needs that were drastically different to my own I finally took a deep look at myself and discovered that the asexual label fit me.
I nailed down the romantic orientation just earlier this year after waffling on about it for a while, but labels are meant to be helpful tools to be tried on and worn until they no longer fit, hopefully for a long time, but there is no shame in changing them out when they no longer fit. All that to say, Biromantic asexual is where I fit most comfortably now, but in the future who knows what I’ll identify as. That one might still change as romantic attraction is just as difficult to nail down as physical and sexual attraction. I know I don’t feel anything different based on gender but is that because I feel nothing or because I respond the same? Who really knows, but for now I still want to date someone so biromantic asexual it is.
My experiences have made me passionate about education and connection within the ace community, to try and make the journey a little bit easier for the future baby aces. Outside of the community, I am passionate about fantasy novels, DnD, crafting, music, and my pet cat Jasper, so feel free to reach out anytime to talk about any of these topics.
— Rebekah
Isn’t she amazing?!
I really want to give my biggest thanks to Rebekah for helping me out!
Also, I just wanted to let my Dutch readers know that I am looking for a Dutch proofreader because I am working on a Dutch version of my site/blog but have really bad dyslexia.
I absolutely would love for them to be on the Ace Spectrum, so we can really keep the ace in The Ace Mind Team. So if you want to join the team, be sure to email me!
Thank you for reading this blog,
you are acesome.
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I hope to see you back next time,
♤ The Ace Mind — Joëlle ♡
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